The Paradox of Kindness

To my favourite ISFJ

My claim is startling, but I find kind souls unfit for this cruel, corrupted world. On the contrary, Jesus has a paradoxical point-of-view about kindness compared to mine.

Before you go on judging, just take time to ponder and read this until the end.

I would invite you guys to think deeply about this matter. Observe how this world has treated kindness for weakness. If you found your colleague having trouble finishing their work, and you felt compassion for them, don’t be surprised if they keep approaching you to complete their work.

This situation is common both in school and workplace grounds. In school, it is no surprise if in a group setting, you found yourself or with one or two group mates in a group of five, completing a group project alone. Rarely, there are people who would ask “do you need any help?” exist.

In a corporate world, if you remain kind, there will be people who would use you to run errands, complete their work, or even bring you down. If you keep on helping others, you won’t reach the top position fast. Therefore, using the world’s spectacles, I perceive kindness for weakness.

Let’s bring meekness into attention now. I pity those who are “soft” at heart because this world is definitely going to crush them inside out. This is why the world has labelled meekness for being vulnerable and the weaklings.

Living in this world has taught me that it is cold, brutal and just harsh. You cannot be submissive, you MUST make people submit to you. This is why power is just so desirable, isn’t it? addictive, isn’t it? You have to have a stone heart in order to push through all pebbles in life.

If you are planning on being quiet, gentle, and patient, basically on being meek, live in the woods. This is probably the best advice I can give to you. There, in the woods, you can lead an quiet and gentle life. You can be patient where nobody is going to come at you, rushing you to achieve the target or reach a certain goal. You can take one breathe at a time.

On the contrary, living in big cities, you have to seize every moment. Be as aggressive as possible. Corporate world does not like people who are quiet. Be as loud as you can be so that you can relieve your stress, or even better, be at the top. Gossiping, depreciating others (colleagues, classmates, bosses, teachers), putting up a good profile for yourself, and more. Doesn’t that sound good?

Therefore, meekness has no room in this world. If you are a meek person living in big cities, you will run out of tears. I hope to see the day where your smile be genuine, because I am not surprise if you have become someone cold.

Don’t let me get started with those who are pure at hearts. I do not know how they can go about their lives, labelled as naive people. Try to be optimist, try to live up to your values and principles, “that’s too idealistic Korsky,” the world says. The world is tough; the world is hard; an eye for an eye; a life for a life; and that’s life.

However, give your full attention to this.

However, Jesus said something paradoxical about what kindness is, contrasting from what I and the world perceive of what it was.

Jesus said in Matthew 5:5,7-9;

“Blessed are the meek, for they shall inherit the Earth. Blessed are the merciful, for they shall receive mercy. Blessed are the pure at heart, for they shall see God. Blessed are the peacemakers, for they shall be called sons of God.”

This is the paradoxical view that I was talking about. How come those who are meek inherit the Earth? The reality is if you are a submissive person, you will be under someone’s shoes and never be first. And, if you are not first, how can you inherit the Earth?

And if you are merciful, people will just take your mercy for granted. Therefore, how in the world those who are merciful receive mercy?

Now, the third verse makes sense. If you are pure at heart, you shall see God (literally). This makes sense to me.

And so if you are peacemakers, you will be the weak ones. The world taught us to sue, to fight, and to defend your position. You want peace? I want my rights. This is what the world teaches us, not to be the peacemakers but the rights fighters.

Jesus, however, said blessed are those who practice kindness, for your reward is great in the latter world.

To the meek, Jesus sees the unseen. He knows your struggles and dilemma in being gentle to difficult people, quiet when angry, and soft in loving and forgiving all kinds of people.

To those who are pure at heart, you are blessed not because they see God literally. But because you can see what God sees and feel what God feels. You will come into an understanding of God’s soft heart for the needy and the brokenhearted. Truly, to have a pure heart is a blessing

To the peacemakers, how privilege they are to be called sons and daughters of God. In fact, I’d like to believe that God is proud of the peacemakers because they are doing what the Father desires most, for us to live in peace and harmony. They love when it is unconditional, forgive when it is undeserving, and forget when it is impossible.

To the merciful, even when you extend mercy thus people stepped on you, God said you will receive mercy. He is not saying that you will receive mercy from the people who bring you down but you have received mercy from Him first.

While we are still sinners, unfaithful, and unable to work out our righteousness, God extends His mercy to us, giving us our righteousness freely in expense of His one and only beloved son, Jesus. He took the cross in our place, loving us wholeheartedly.

The paradox of kindness lies on where the world labelled kindness for weakness, God sees it as a strength and rewards them. He understands that it is not easy to practice kindness, especially in this corrupted world. However there is reward for those who do kindness, and the rewards are not of this world, but for the latter world – When Jesus comes for the second time to this world.

God bless your heart for those who are able to do kindness in this cold, harsh world.




The Incomprehensible Rugged Tree


He died not for men, but for each man. If each man had been the only man made, He would have done no less. – CS Lewis


Being a born and raised Christian, I have heard the story of Jesus dying on the cross for more than 100 times, most probably. Unique would be the word that describes the gospel best, indeed, but as a kid, I cannot comprehend the depth of His love and the significance behind that rugged tree, or in other words, the cross.

The story always goes from the Lord loves this world so much that He gave His only Son to die on the cross, while we do not deserve salvation, so that we can be together with Him in heaven one day which on the third day He was raised from the grave, conquering death. While the Sunday school teacher went on telling the gospel, my heart questioned: “why Jesus had to die for me? What is the big deal with the cross? Why Christians are so worked up about this? What is so marvellous about Jesus?” These questions were hidden inside my heart for years, afraid if I asked I will be judged, not until one fine evening, these questions were answered.

However, I believe that evening, by the grace of God, was not knowledge or understanding that brought me to believe Jesus is God, it was the revelation that I am, me is a sinner. Therefore, I pray that you will encounter the same experience just as I had throughout this post.


For God so loved the world, that he gave his only Son, that whoever believes in him should not perish but have eternal life. – John 3:16


No one is righteous, that is written in Romans 3:10, I repeat no one is righteous. Not even one, each and every single soul-breathing humans on earth is sinners. Despite knowing this, it was hard for me to accept the fact I have sinned and I am in need of a Redeemer. It was like I was blinded when it was obvious, seeing how messed up I was inside: empty, lost, angry, depressed, and confused.

That ‘predestined’ evening, as I was struggling with hatred, thinking of one is not worthy of forgiveness, I saw my own faults. My vices were set before my own eyes, realising that I am a mess too. That moment was where tears started rolling down my cheeks as I was too embarrassed to show it, I covered my face with my long hair. It was the day I saw myself for who I really am: broken and shattered, expecting too much and in return receive much disappointments. That evening was the day I knew the significance behind the rugged tree and the day I knew I need Jesus.

For all have sinned and fall short of the glory of God, (Romans 3:23) and the wages of sin is death (Romans 6:23). We all deserve eternal death but because God loves us so much, He gave His one and only beloved child to be the ultimate sacrifice so that we can have a relationship with God, without in bound to sin and eternal death. Jesus has paid the price for people like us who are like the soldiers who took pleasure in mocking Jesus, like the witnesses who cared more about the approval of man rather of God, and like one of the disciples who was faithless and who was a coward. Jesus even knew what we will eventually do to Him but, amidst all that, He remained faithful. He who knew no sin became sin on our behalf so that in Him, we can become the righteousness of God (2 Corinthians 5:21).

Take a moment and think about this!! Jesus, a God who was sitting on the throne decided to leave the pleasure of HEAVEN, let me repeat, THE PLEASURE OF HEAVEN, in order to have a relationship with us. He left the position as a God and became a servant for us. He ate with sinners, talked with them, and loves them – He did not condemn the sinners but save them. I mean think about this one more time, who would have done that?

If we were good people, that would be a reasonable decision to take but who are we? Every person who persecuted Jesus back then is not any different than every one of us today. Imagine if Jesus came down to Earth in 2017, I bet the public, including myself, would call Him crazy when He said: “I am the way, the truth, and the life.” However, Jesus was still looking into our eyes and takes upon OUR cross without complaining at all.

Now, think about the cross. The cross is the sentence for criminals. By criminals, I mean where the public perceive them as dangerous, insignificant and deadly people like serial killers kind. The Pilate stood up and asked which one you, the witness, would choose – Jesus or Barabbas. Barabbas was the leader of a rebellion, committed murder before (Luke 23:19) and Jesus, on the other hand, had only been healing the sick, raising the dead, teaching the lost, feeding the hungry, opening blind eyes, and opening deaf ears. I did not know what is wrong with the crowd back there, they judged poorly. They chose Jesus to be sentenced for the cross instead of Barabbas. Even the Pilate was confused and asked, “Why, what evil has he done?(Matthew 27:23). Being chosen by the crowd, Jesus stood still in silence and faithfully took OUR cross – knowing that path would lead to pain beyond comprehension: physically, mentally, and spiritually.

Can you imagine that Jesus was spit on? He was a God, remember, yet now He had to stoop so low and being spitted on yet He remained silent. He was punched, whipped, slapped, nailed to the rugged tree, and abused and still He was silent. He was betrayed by His own beloved followers and still He was silent. He was mocked, slandered, and challenged, “If you are the Son of God come down from the cross,” and all He did was pray for the mockers for forgiveness. How can He still love His own bullies, mockers, betrayers, you name it, scandalously like that.

Jesus has given His life to save all us despite all of the trials and tribulations, there is no greater love such as this. How can this kind of love does not changes a person? I believe once we understand how much He loves us, never will we see ourselves as insignificant human beings for at the glimpse of that rugged tree, we know we are deeply loved. For the cross was known as a symbol for criminals who have done evil beyond comprehension and now, it has become a symbol of God’s incomprehensible love. When we feel His love, I know our lives will change 180⁰ to the better.

Please email me if you have a prayer request or in need of a friend to talk to. I will make sure to response it as quickly as possible. I love you guys but Jesus loves you more.

Yours sincerely